You have been looking for that kind of love all of your life. If you were only good enough, smart enough, attractive enough, patient enough, your ex would have given you the love you wanted, all of the time. Anger arises when someone has something you want but won’t give it to you, especially when giving it seems the natural or expected thing to do. It is very difficult to throw away this type of connection.
He hung out with her but never did anything with her. I cut off all communication between us and decided to move 5 states away to live with my absolute bestfriend.
I came to drop his stuf off that last say and she was there. The last day I was at home, I ended up meeting up with him and telling him I was leaving. Days following my move, I would get angry texts from him followed by him telling me he doest want yo live without me.
But, if you are to have a healthy, loving, fulfilling relationship, you must find a way to let go completely and cleanly, so that your ex is a part of your history, but is no longer a wound in your heart. (he is not a bad guy, he has had a rough life due to his parents adopting him, kicking him out when he was 16, and never being there for him for any reason.) I ended up getting pregnant with his baby and due to complications I lost it. I ended up packing his things up over the next few days and took them to him.
The shock came the last day I took his stuff to him.
Since the bad side was a part of the package and could not be changed, the whole package has to be let go off. You go back to them for comfort or in hopes of understanding what happened. Mine that relationship for what you want in your current or future relationship.