Putting himself in a “father figure” position will install more of a sense of control.
Treating you like a child that went to the mall, prior to doing her homework, is the kind of humiliation in you he is trying to achieve.
Not showing you the courtesy to respect your wishes is not a behavior that goes away.
This will continue as an abusive relationship, where you will be treated as an object, instead of a person.
The subject will immediately transfer from your asking, “where were you? Belittling your self-confidence can be have very serious consequences.