Of course, this isn't just a theoretical concern for most people; it's a practical one."When you're dating right and actually investing your time and emotional energy into each experience, it can be draining, and it's important to not burn yourself out," Burns says."But, if you can’t keep your facts straight and remember details about each person, it’s a sign you’re likely dating too many people." If you can't remember which of your matches has heard your go-to first date anecdote about growing up in a foreign country, for example, it's usually a red flag that you're juggling too many dates, she says. That's a lot of conversation to make, so it's understandable that you'd goof at least once.
But, just because you have a ton of matches, that doesn't necessarily mean you have a harder time settling down.
Only 9% of men and women who are dating online stated that they find it hard to maintain a committed relationship with one person because there are so many other potential matches online, according to the Tinder survey.
But there are obviously lots of other variables that go into whether or not your online dating match turns into a relationship besides time and the number of messages you sent (like you didn't actually click when you met, or the person realized they don't want a relationship).
If you're looking for a relationship and want to be efficient, your best bet is to aim to have at most three solid slots for potential partners at one time, Burns says.
So, how do you make sure you're not dating yourself into the ground?