And although the doughnuts provided a brief distraction from my sexual cravings, I gained 15 pounds. One congregant pitched her bachelor son, a drug addict who recently served time for dealing meth. At the end of the day, I'm just a normal 20-something who watches Glee and loves photography. For so long I've viewed my career as a hindrance, but really, it is a fast, fabulous filter to weed out the jerks. I can hold out for someone — of any religion — strong enough to love all of me, both the pastor and the woman.
" "Look other places for a suitable mate, for the sake of the church don't date someone in the congregation." or at least if you are about to start dating someone in the church encourage them to change churches so the possible damage or gossip will be lessened. There are many risks to dating someone in your congregation.
It could cause problems for those who can't handle the fact that the pastor has a personal life and has feelings for someone of the opposite gender.
If these weeks or months expose a distracted heart then the minister closes the door to the possibility, refocuses on the things of God, and guards his or her heart in regards to this person.
If these months clarify that the minister's heart is focused well on Christ and that the desire to better know the person of the opposite gender is God-honoring then the minister moves on to the next step of preparation.
The minister respects the person's character, personality, and commitment to the things of God and God's people.