Whatever your answer is, that’s the main cause of your behaviour.
Meeting Friends Meeting each other’s social group is a big step.
If you make it past the gauntlet of scrutiny from their friends, things are well on their way.
If it’s “to get to know someone”, you’ll probably seem interview-ish. People like being around fun, low-pressure people with no expectations.
The best way to look at a date is a chance to have fun. As things progress, that’s when you get to know each other.
Likewise, if she’s got some clothes or 8,412 bottles of hair product in your shower, you’re in.