Dating concierge


“In NYC you play this game of, ‘I’m not interested but I’m interested.’” There’s also less of a rigid dating environment there: “In NYC, if you don’t hit it off over a drink, you missed your chance.

But in Germany, it’s more relaxed: You might join up with him and friends and have real activities and experiences.” Bernd Fischer, a 25-year-old who lived in Morningside Heights and now works in publishing in Cape Town, says the South African city can be cliquey, “So for those of us who aren’t into dating apps, it’s difficult to meet new people and it can often feel like there aren’t even any new people to meet,” he says.

“It’s actually a running joke by now,” he says of the people he and his friends meet on dating apps.

“They turn out to be tourists who, of course, aren’t sticking around for very long.” He prefers the New York dating scene, where anything can happen: “You still feel like you’ll meet someone by chance on the subway or in a museum in New York.” Betsy Cox, a divorce concierge on the Upper East Side, splits her time between New York City and London, where she lived for four years and met the man who proposed to her. “Depending on your age, if you’re single and young, you’re definitely going to meet guys of your age group in New York City,” says Cox, 50.

“The dating scene is all about consuming people,” she says, “not getting to know people.” Forget about one-night stands and say hello to the setup in the Philippines.