It wasn’t easy and didn’t happen overnight, but by doing the right things she created a climate that ultimately led to the saving of her marriage. For the last dozen years I’ve been teaching the same principles to couples who come to my intensive workshop for marriages in crisis. Never accept the sinful actions of another, but try to understand and accept what is behind the sin. I regularly see people who work hard to get back a husband or wife and as soon as the spouse turns, the anger overwhelms the spouse trying to save the marriage. I’m warning you, don’t try to save your marriage unless you intend to follow through by learning to forgive.
Her husband abandoned his lover, returned home, and worked on falling in love with his wife again. I’ve seen it work with just about any situation you can imagine, not just adultery but also marriages plagued with anger problems, a controlling spouse, disrespect, disinterest, and more. That doesn’t make the hurt instantly go away; it makes it possible for it to go away.
Even if your spouse is not there to see, it’s possible that he/she will hear about it.
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It’s a way to manipulate the outcome and many spouses fall for it, thinking that keeping him (or her) calm provides better opportunities to potentially salvage the marriage. Making the path to divorce easier may keep the abandoning spouse calmer, but keeping him or her calm shouldn’t be the goal. “If you really want this marriage to work, I’ll guide you through a step-by-step process to save it. Understand me clearly, IF anything works, this will. Even if you consider it imaginary, accept what your spouse sees has his/her reality and be very open to the possibility that you played a part in causing your spouse to feel the way he/she feels.
One evening he told her he was in love with his assistant, that he already had a lawyer, and suggested she procure one for herself. Often the abandoning spouse tries to convince the other that he will be nicer in the divorce – and they each could save a lot of money – if she would agree to let his lawyer handle everything.
It isn’t easy to put a marriage back together and win back a husband or wife, but the Love Path works.