Before you proceed, there are some things you need to know, both to preserve your sanity and ego as well as hers. But, albeit all your other intentions, you’ve met one and you like her. So, let’s assume for the sake of this article that you’ve moved past the novelty of nailing a “milf” (a stupid yet totally relevant word), and have begun to wrap your brain around and perhaps even embraced that this great girl comes with some, er… (I think “baggage”, no matter the negative connotations it brings, is the term), and you’re okay with the kids, minimal time to herself, baby daddy and most likely an ex that will be in her life forever, part of it all.You have to be an incredibly strong person to make it happen.
I have been the girlfriend to a man with a baby (and all that goes with THAT).
We made it through to the other side, had a couple of children of our own, then decided we were not meant to be together after all and now, 5 years later, I’m a single mother with two kids under the age of 8.
And also, help you both to build a relationship in which this works. If you’re questioning my qualifications to be speaking about this.
Just so you know, I have been on BOTH sides of this challenging, yet shiny coin.
No need to puff out your chest and mark your territory, I can almost guarantee that no matter how great they seem to get along, it is SO over. Because if you were to ever give he the ultimatum of him or you. Not because she chose him, but because she chooses her kids. Show her you love her not in spite of everything she comes with, but because of everything she comes with.